July 21st, 2010
Often there are problems with children sharing – sharing toys, sharing attention, sharing just about anything. A child uses the word “mine” because it helps him or her to feel so important that they are able to have actual ownership over one thing or another. “Mine” is not a problem unless the child becomes overly possesive. It is important to prevent these types of problems in the first place by teaching children sharing techniques and instilling a belief that it is just as important to give as it is to take.
First of all, it is important to let your child have some possessions of their own or it will make it that much harder to get them to share. Allow them to have their own special toys or blankets that are not taken out when company is present. Take them out only when he or she is alone and can enjoy them on their own without anyone else trying to take them away from your child. This will give your child the feeling that they have their very own territory.
Another important thing is to show them that they are not the only ones who must share. Point out any time you’re sharing a book or something to your friend. This will make sharing seem less unfair because everyone, including you, does. Also point out any time your child is sharing on their own and praise them for it. Say things like, “I’m very impressed with how well you are sharing and letting your friend have a turn with the toy.”
For children close in age it is important to always tell their toys apart from each other. Simply writing labels on the bottom of toys or on the tags can help you to not get two teddy bears confused, especially those toys the child feels specific ownership of.
Let your child know ahead of time that sharing is important. If you know that a friend of your child is coming over to play make sure and tell them they will be expected to share with them. Tell them rules of sharing like if a toy is set down anyone can play with it but if you’re still holding it then it is yours until you set it down.
It’s important to remember that sharing may not be so easy for your child at first, it will take some time for them to get use to the idea of what they own and what they do not. By age three or four is when most children become comfortable with sharing enough to do it on their own depending on how soon you teach them.
July 16th, 2010
Sometimes it’s hard to find time for those little but important moments that show love throughout our busy days. This is where kids notes come in to play. There will always be times in your child’s life that you cannot be right there with them to tell them how you feel about them. However there are a few different ways you can let your child know that you are there for them even when you can’t be there physically.
An old trick mothers have been doing for years is to leave a special note in your child’s lunch box. While packing your kids lunch in the morning before school take that napkin and write down something sweet for them to see later in their day. Even something as simple as saying, “Have a good day honey! I love you”, will put a smile on their face and remind them they are loved. You never know when your child might be having a bad day at school and this could be just the thing to get them in a better one. Doing this often will give them something to look forward to at lunch time, besides just the food.
You can also try using posted notes when they’re not at school. Leaving them notes on the kitchen table, the refrigerator, or mirror can help them throughout their day as well. You could even leave some funny notes on their favorite toys; anywhere you know they’ll be you can put them.
The kids notes don’t always have to be love notes either. They can be there to make your child laugh, smile, to apologize for something or to thank them for something they did.
No matter what they say or how they say it, these kids notes can be used to let your child know you care for them. Everyone expressed emotions in one way or another and little love notes can be a way for anyone to express how they love their children while letting them know as well.
March 26th, 2010
Last week I posted a study about a ADHD and ADD medications not shown to have long-term benefits. I just found a Canadian study from the late 90s showed that showed much the same. Researchers in this Montreal study looked at the long-term benefits of hyperactive children using ADHD medications and found that after a five-year span there was little difference between medicated and non-medicated children. The hyperactive children who were treated with stimulant prescription ADHD medications were found to be initially more manageable. Five years later, the medicated children had the same degree of improvement and emotional adjustment as the non-medicated control group of hyperactive children. ADHD medications can help people focus better and pay better attention. However, the effects wear off as soon as the medications wear off. If you are considering the use of prescription medications for ADHD, just know that in the long-run, these drugs might not give your child a leg up.
March 1st, 2010
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